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The Ten Commandments of Hockey

House Hockey's 10 Commandments

 Here are a couple of thoughts to consider as you progress through the season.

1)  Thou shalt not gripe about any of the players on your team besides your own.  Unless you didn't realize...that IS someone's son/daughter; show some respect and consider others feelings.  How would you like it if that was YOUR son/daughter and you had to hear that complaining?  If you can't restrain yourself, go upstairs behind the glass or go along the boards or to an area where you will not be heard. 

2)  Thou shalt not gripe about the goalie.  The alternative is that your son/daughter, might be asked to play in goal the next game.  A lot of errors occur by forwards and defensemen before a goal is scored. 

3)  Thou shalt not assume that anyone wants to hear who your son/daughter's coach was last year or how things were done.  Let the current coach run the program and place your son/daughter in a position to best help the team.  Coaches often spread the talent out so the better players will lead by example and the weaker ones will push themselves to keep up...leadership and work ethic skills are attained that way.  Every coach is different and there are many ways to be successful and many versions of "Success".

4)  Thou shalt get your son/daughter to practices and games on time.  Coaches can restrict ice time based on previously established team rules 

5)  Thou shalt call and let the coach know when you will not be able to make the game (for lineups) or practice (for practice plans).

6)  Thou shalt have all player’s equipment with them at practice/games.  I will ensure that my son/daughter is wearing their mouth guard and neck guard on the ice and properly.

7)  Thou shalt understand that players will not make progress unless they do attend practice regularly and that they try hard to do what the coaches are telling them to do in said practices. 

8)  Thou shalt accept that the amount of ice time the other team gives to certain players is THEIR concern not ours.  Let their parents voice their displeasure with their coach.  We can not control what the other coaches do.  We can control how hard we play.  If we posses the puck and dictate the play and play in their end it doesn't matter who they play or what they do.

9)  Thou shalt realize that this is HOUSE and not TRAVEL hockey and this is recreational and the score DOES NOT MATTER.  I have yet to meet a kid who gave a rip about the score five minutes after he left the arena unless his parents griped about it in the car on the way home or placed a premium on winning as they walked into the arena.     

10)  Thou shalt realize this is supposed to be fun.  Cheer loud and cheer positive and demand and encourage maximum effort...the rest is all fluff.


The 10 Commandments Of Positive Hockey Parenting

By David S. Stover


As parents get ready for another year at the rink, here are a few words of wisdom that help everyone have a successful and enjoyable hockey season:

  1. Be positive with your child  They have accomplished something that few will ever be able to attain, by simply being a part of a hockey team.  Never put your child down; encourage them.
  2. Don’t criticize the coaches  They are responsible for taking many different personalities and molding them into a cohesive unit.  A team that works and plays together as one is something I have been trying to do with my kids for the past 16 years.  To do this in the shortest amount of time as possible is next to impossible.
  3. Encourage your child to follow the team rules  Getting them to practice/games on time, adhering to a team dress code, and rules of appropriate behavior, both on the ice and off, will make for a successful team and season.
  4. Insist on good grades
  5. Don’t show jealously of other players - who might score more goals, get more assists or get more playing time.  Each player has a job to do, and if everyone does his or her job well then success will come to the team.  Jealousy is a detriment to every team.
  6. Don’t be a know-it-all  The coaches know the talent of their players.  They have the skills and knowledge to get the most out of his or her players.  Let them do their job.
  7. Insist that your child respect - the team rules, game officials and show good sportsmanship all the time.  The team does not tolerate unsportsmanship-like conduct both on and off the ice.
  8. Encourage your children to believe - in themselves and their ability as a team player.  Positive input nets positive results.
  9. Let the coaches have their time - with the team after practices and games.  That is when coaches can have the undivided attention of their team to discuss the practice and the game.  Having a parent in the locker room can be a distraction to both the players and the coaches.
  10. Encourage our child to have fun - and to play for the love of the game.  Be a positive role model for your child and others associated with the team.

Follow these commandments and you and your child will have a happy and successful season.